- Don’t Make Important Decisions Without Thinking Them Through – Impulsivity and emotion can often be the enemy of sound logic. And after the emotions wear off, people will often look back and regret some of the things they did or said. Having a calm and cool head is the best way to approach an impending divorce.
- You Are Getting Divorced, But Your Kids Aren’t – Remember that you and your spouse are going separate ways, but your kids still want to be a part of both of your lives. The best thing to do is discuss anything that may involve conflict away from the company of your children. What you say and do may have an effect on the child’s future relationships and how they look at you or your spouse.
- Forget About the Past, Look Forward to the Future – You are getting divorced because it will improve the quality of your life in the long-term. This period can be very stressful but it is important to remember “the big picture”.
- Take Divorce Stories with a Grain of Salt – You may have friends or relatives that have gone through a divorce. They may tell you they know exactly how it is or what will happen next. But it is important to remember that, like people, all divorces are different. Many factors go into how smooth or hard the divorce process goes. Also, the person telling the story probably has their own biases and selective memory. They cannot help it, it is human.
- Be Honest With Your Attorney – Your attorney is working for you and needs all the information you can provide. This will help the attorney steer the case in the right direction. A detail that you are shy about or one that you feel to be inconsequential may actually help your attorney. Don’t forget that the facts will probably come out anyway and that your attorney should be prepared for them.
- Have Reasonable Goals – Sometimes, people who are getting divorced set unreasonable goals for what they want from the divorce process. Remember, it is the law’s responsibility to be as fair as possible. If you enter into the process with a fair and open mind, it will go more smoothly.
We hope these tips have helped you. There is a much more to the divorce process than we could have included in this article, but it may be a good starting point for you. If you need a divorce attorney and live in Brevard County please feel free to contact us at 321-914-4710